Curious

This morning I was talking with a friend about our need to “fix” things before we have all the information.  So what stops us being curious?  Is it because we feel like we are being nosy?  This morning my husband received a package with a device to help ease his back pain.  When he opened the package the device looked different from the picture.  He asked me to look at it and to see if I could understand how it worked.  I couldn’t and was just about to make the suggestion “how about you look on the internet at the page you ordered it from and see if there are instructions there that fit AND how about you call the company and see if they can help you.”  I was about to be in “fix-it” mode.  Instead I caught myself and decided to ask a question instead.  I asked “what do you need from me right now?”  He said “nothing, listen to me complain for a while.”  “OK” was my answer and he did for about 90 seconds before he said “maybe I ought to look on the internet and see if I can find the answer there”.  My response?  “What a good idea honey.  I’m off to take a shower.”  Can you stay in curious mode and ask questions rather than trying to “fix” the problem or issue?

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